Feeling a little down? Depressed? Worried?
Close to 85 percent of the things we worry about result in positive or fair conclusions. It is reassuring that research from Clinical Psychology and Psychotherapy shows that almost 80 percent of the time, when there is a negative outcome, we handle the situation far better than we thought we could.
Here are a few powerful tools to “get rhythm” to help you deal with a case of the blues:
“PUT ON YOUR RED SHOES AND DANCE THE BLUES–David Bowie”
Reframe the Scenery
For years I referred to a saying on my office wall that kept me inspired and smiling during rough times. It was a cartoon plaque that read “If you are up the creek without a paddle, just enjoy the scenery.”
By quickly re-framing our thoughts about a tough situation or spot we are in, automatically a path of opportunity (rest, read, listen to music, walk, people watch, or surf the net) opens.
It’s a good window of time to call a friend, get other work done, or be creative. Laugh and enjoy the adventure of another exciting trail—away from the deepening rut of worry.
‘THE BLUES IS A LOW DOWN ACHIN’ CHILL” –Robert Johnson
Practice the Art of Gratitude
This weapon against the blues may sound cheesy, but it is very powerful. Create a gratitude journal. It doesn’t matter if it’s handwritten, entered on a notes application or typed on a computer. Just do it. Each day write five-minute note of gratitude. Why is it so powerful? Because it can increase your long-term well-being by more than 10 percent.That’s the same impact as doubling your income!
Gratitude improves our health, relationships, emotions, personality, and career. Of course money helps, but usually buying something creates temporary happiness.
Simply put, gratitude triggers positive feedback loops.
- For every thousand things you do right, all it takes is one bad comment from someone to wipe much of it out. Be grateful for those thousand things.
- Those who have been disabled have a remarkable ability to rebound – initially they may feel down, but over time they are on average just as happy as everyone else.
Studies show by practicing the art of gratitude good changes occur. It might take a few months but it’s important to know cultivating gratitude is a skill. That why we have to practice.
“BLUES IS EASY TO PLAY, BUT HARD TO FEEL.’ –Jimi Hendrix
Some of us are drawn to gratitude more than others. It’s a trait of our personality. Daily gratitude practice can evolve into our personality, but know it can take a while. It’s worth it.
Gratitude generates social capital. Two major studies show that those who were 10% more grateful than average had 17.5% more social capital. That means people like us more.
Gratitude makes us nicer, more trusting, more social, and more appreciative. As a result, it helps us make more friends, deepen our existing relationships, and improve our relationships.